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|Picasso's Old Woman (1901)|
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|Our Trek to Kareri Lake - Camera Malathi Panchwagh|
Writing this first blogpost of 2019, while the festivities, the greetings season and the new year resolutions are still on. Isn’t it befitting to dream of going beyond ‘your best’ this year? Have you ever wondered, what does it take to move you beyond ‘your best’?
How does one achieve that? Surpassing your peak. At the start of this wonderful year, in response to this reflection, I am in touch with those occasions, when I have felt most fulfilled. For me a sense of completion, fulfillment and the zenith has almost always been associated with others’ success.
Whenever I have strived to make others happy & joyous I have been delighted. I was rewarded every time I supported others accomplish their goals. This has always been true; as a parent, manager/ leader, trainer, coach and consultant. My colleague Suresh says, “If you make others successful, then the bigger success awaits you”. This equation has proved itself many times over. In the novel “The Palace of a Thousand Rainbows” Bilol Bose writes “…life is not a compulsion, it is the excitement of being worthwhile to someone you care for."
As a consultant when I focus on client benefits, as a coach/ mentor when I focus on the mentee’s potential, as a leader when I focus on results & team’s well being and as a parent when I am engaged with my child’s growth – I am focusing on their success. And, such involvement, always brings out the best in us, leading us to unlock the hidden potential.
The good part is that, this philosophy is contagious. When I formed my consulting organization, it led us to coin the tagline “just add passion” (www.potentia.in). The spirit of this tagline has always pushed us to strive for success of our clients. Over the years, we have reaped the rewards of deep satisfaction, state of flow and thriving.
What makes it possible for families, organizations and communities to unlock their potential? It is a sense of abundance. An appreciation that the “win-win” is a ‘law of the nature’. But in a paradigm characterized by fear, scarcity and competition - most of us in this world get caught in the win-lose propositions.
So if you want this new year to better your previous best than one sure shot way is to contribute to others success around you. Please remember that the definition of someone’s success must be seen from her/ his point of view; not yours. Can you contribute towards success as defined by them? If you are unable to contribute than at least rejoice intheir success and not sulk, feel jealous or disappointed; for, these are the starting points of a downward spiral.
As the 2019 unfolds, I am setting out the intent -- may we all and our loved ones find a sense of abundance and awaken the greatness within.
Thursday, 27 December 2018
Last July, listening to this song humbled me.
Oh, it's just me, myself and I
Solo ride until I die
‘Cause I got me for life
Oh, I don't need a hand to hold
Even when the night is cold
that fire in my soul
Reminding me of the solo ride of life, it inspired me to continue being in touch with that fire in my soul. This reinforced for me - seeking the fulfilment within doesn’t need a big plan; it just surfaces when one adjusts the radio frequency to peep within.
The other day, driving to airport during the bewitching hours I tuned into Fever FM. RJ Urmin was chatting with Bollywood score composer Jeet Ganguly. Jeet’s narration about making of the title song of खामोशियाँ (khamoshiyan or the silences) touched me deeply. The songs says --
खामोशियाँ आवाज़ हैं
तुम सुनने तो आओ कभी
छू कर तुम्हें खिल जाएँगी
घर इनको बुलाओ कभी
बेकरार है बात करने को
कहने दो इनको ज़रा…
क्या उस गली में कभी तेरा जाना हुआ
जहाँ से ज़माने को गुज़रे ज़माना हुआ…
खामोशियाँ एक साज़ है
तुम धुन कोई लाओ ज़रा
खामोशियाँ अल्फ़ाज़ है
कभी आ गुनगुना ले ज़रा…
This song not only helped me to celebrate the silences around but also made me aware of my own journey over the years. A transformative journey of accepting my unclaimed introversion, wherein I found myself with nothing but my heartbeat by my side. Initially it had felt lonely but in due course, turned out to be a precious movement from loneliness to solitude. If you have taken a trip within than perhaps you will resonate with my feelings of satisfaction, peace and joy.
When you spontaneously tune into the music around, breaking free from the societal boxes, becomes easy. My gratitude for life kindled to a new high, when a song I stumbled upon not only put me in touch with the “fountain of youth” but also made me realize that “I’m getting to my best years yet”. “The Older I Get” by Alan Jackson which goes like this --
The older I get
The more I think
You only get a minute,
better live while you’re in it
'Cause it’s gone in a blink
And the older I get
The truer it is
It’s the people you love, not the money and stuff
That makes you rich
The older I get
The fewer friends I have
But you don’t need a lot when the ones that you got
Have always got your back
And the older I get
The better I am
At knowing when to give
And when to just not give a damn
And I don’t mind all the lines
From all the times I’ve laughed and cried
Souvenirs and little signs of the life I’ve lived
The older I get
The longer I pray
I don’t know why, I guess that I
Got more to say
And the older I get
The more thankful I feel
For the life I’ve had, and all the life I’m living still
Serendipitous instances, much like listening to these songs and realising a few home truths about my being, have often proved transcendental. Such points have helped me uncover the holes & crevices I didn’t know exist; letting discover elements within myself. These times have made me less incomplete. In turn, helping me own up my disowned parts and experience wholesomeness in company of my heartbeat.
My realization, when one’s life is punctuated by silences (reflections within) and hyphenated with mindful moments, it facilitates the ‘makeover’. A process where fragmented “I” paves way for a more aligned “me” and the fractured “me” makes way for an integrated “myself”.
For me the journey from “I” to “Me” and “Me” to “Myself” has often meant to shed facades, embrace the disowned parts and celebrate the transitions. However, I must hasten to add that this process is never complete. For, it gives rise to a new “fragmented I” as soon as Harish makes the “integrated myself” a holy grail, making this an ever-expanding spiral.
“Be satisfied enough to be happy and dissatisfied enough to grow” has been an adage that has propelled me through life. However, embracing this adage has meant finding a pause or ठहराव; it is a word in Hindi, for which I don’t find an English equivalent (the closest perhaps is pause/ abeyance). As I look forward to 2019, I am wishing for myself a little more ठहराव.
Wishing you all the very best of 2019. Do share the poetry & songs that touch your life -- email@example.com